Friday, February 14, 2014

Happy Day o' Love

Valentine's Day. Ugh.

Don't get me wrong, I love my man. I love my kids. I love my friends and the rest of my family. I do. I just don't like having a day dedicated to having to prove it.  Or worse, hoping to be worthy enough to receive it.

"How much do you love me? Oh, just a card worth? Wow. And here, I got you chocolate! Bitch."

I know it's not a contest, but it has always felt that way.  Especially in elementary school with the dreaded cardboard mail boxes. I was sure my cards with be met with reactions of disgust. I feared I would get all the ugly ones in return. No one ever seemed thrilled with all the time and effort I put into picking just the right crappy ass card for each classmate. And if I just assigned them at random, the brats would read too much into them and tease the recipient of my sappiest one. No, Sir Poopy Head, I did NOT give you the "key to my heart!" It just says that!! Be glad you one from each kid in the class and shut up!

Needless to say, I was glad that torture stopped after 6th grade.  Well, sort of.

Jr. High  Sorry. "Middle School" brought in a whole new form of Valentine torture. Only getting one if someone liked you. Ya, that didn't work out well for me either. See, we had Candy Grams. *sarcastic "yeay" dance* Every year, students would buy whatever the school put together (usually a piece candy and some heart themed slip of paper) and fill it out for the friends/love interests/teachers/zombies/stalking targets of their choosing. Then they would delivered on Valentine's Day to one of their classrooms.  For many, this was considered fun.  To me, it was torture. I remember this one girl who was so popular, it seemed she was always getting them. It was insane! I mean, really.  How many friends/S.O.s/zombies/stalkers did she have?!? I... maybe... got one a year. Maybe. I wanted to hate her. I really did.  But on top of being soooo freakin' popular, she was actually really sweet. It was most annoying.

Anyway, she wasn't the only one getting multiples and I wasn't among them so, ya.... No complex brewing there!  None. At. All. 

Luckily, they didn't do that so much in high school. That and I was so messed up mentally, I didn't notice if they did. And I had a steady, back to back, run of boyfriends by that time. Although they were just as mental as m,e for the most part, I never went with out on the "day o' love." I would at least get a plastic rose. You know the kind sold at the liquor stores? Wrapped like a real one and accompanied with a tiny fuzzy bear? Sometimes scented?  Those were quite popular then. Sadly. Had quite the collection for awhile there. So it wasn't all bad. I guess. 

While Valentine's Day is much better for me now, I am still on the fence about it. Some years, I am all into it. I buy a lot of cutesy crap for everyone. This year, I just feel like I did when I was a kid. Not so much the competition part, but the bleh part. What does it matter if it is cutesy and personalized for each person? Why can't I just sign a bunch of flimsy character cards and throw them at people? Will it really matter?  I'm just not feeling it. All I have done for today has been the kids class cards and a card I found in an end cap for my man. (although, it is a really cute card.) I don't know.

Here's hoping YOUR Valentine's Day is much better than mine.  May your mental state be on an up swing and you are open to all the wonderful things people bless you with today. May you feel the love from your loved ones, no matter what the form it comes in.  And may you be able to return it.  Even if it is in the form of a hug ... and maybe a plastic perfume sprayed flower from the corner store.

Love and Be loved.


  1. I always saw St. Valentine's Day as a couples' day. If I didn't have a significant other, I didn't give it any thought (that is, of course, after elementary school). If I did, then I did something for them. Now I see it as another good excuse to have Date Night (a much needed activity after having kids).

    1. And an excellent excuse for a date night it is! I totally agree, it's much needed. Have a great date night. :0)